Talking

IMG_0035I hate this term. I hate the ‘talking’ term our generation has created.

N0w, I am going to start off by say: yes, I have done this before. I have considered myself to not be in a relationship with someone, but to be talking to them.

It’s dumb and sad.

This isn’t going to be a post about back in the old day, but it is going to be about some of those core values that we as a generation we have lost.

How many of y’all have been out on more than one date with a guy not talking? And he picked you up and took you out date?

We have defined the getting to know you stage as a lesser than dating stage. In reality, it is a stage where they just talk and get to know each other. But the specialness is gone.

When talking there is no commitment. It is basically a stage of literally just talking.

But the difference between talking and dating is the second guessing. When you’re just talking to someone there is no true knowledge of how they feel. They could just be thinking friendly thoughts where your thinking more. Within this talking stage there’s also a level of uncertainty. I know I’ve experienced this, I was in this talking stage then realized I was being led on or I read too much into it. 

I hate how this has become a normal thing. This new process causes so much more pain than it does joy! 

I think when dating there is a stage of getting to know them without the commitment and feelings, but talking is almost like playing with someone’s feelings and just being left in the dark.

Jeremy and I had a ‘talking’ stage. When we were getting to know each other better and we both liked each other. But, once that stage was over we went on a date instead of rushing into a relationship. We aren’t perfect and I am not saying that our way is the only and best way. But it was something different and special about it.

We got to know each other better and we honestly knowing what each other wanted and was feeling.

The stage of talking has totally corrupted what dating is supposed to be about.

2 thoughts on “Talking

  1. I definitely think every relationship starts out differently and that’s ok! I think it really depends on your age and your situation. When I met my boyfriend, I was 14, so talking was definitely something people would do. If I met him now in college (or post-grad) we would probably go on a few dates first. I don’t regret how our relationship started and I wouldn’t change a thing! 🙂

    X,
    Cristina
    cristinawashere.com

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